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the big fat greek wedding

okay it’s not really big, or fat even. but it’s a greek wedding {technically}

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after monthsss {6 to be exact} of v. hard work at the new firm i am now working at  {which btw does not like being named}, A and i are finally off on a short but much needed vacation.

Two of A’s closest friends from his university days in london are getting married in santorini next week. and ofcourse, we had to be there for their big day.

since we had to fly down to greece for their wedding, we decided to make a trip out of it and visit a few other places around. we will be visiting athens, mykonos, santorini and paros.

i haven’t been before and have seen so many pictures, can’t wait to leave already.

back to the basics

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starting a new job is hard. you have to adjust, adapt and prove yourself all over again. changing two jobs in less than a year is harder.

but it’s a choice we make. one with long-term benefits.

recently i read an article on the importance of emotional intelligence in a professional work environment and it referred to dale carnegie’s book on how to win friends and influence people. growing up i’d heard of this book a thousand times. but never really got down to reading it.

but a few weeks ago i decided to check on what the hype was all about.

the book was published in 1936 and was one of the first and most bestselling self help books ever published. and i get why now. everything in the book, published decades ago, holds true even today. and there’s so much to learn and so v inspiring. once you begin reading it you realise that apart from several other benefits it’s even v helpful in pushing you forward in your career.

i’m about to start reading his other book, how to stop worrying and start living and can’t wait because for one, i know it will make A v happy. he’s always telling me about how i need to get rid of my ridiculous worrying habit.

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i’ve had a technical issue and could not access the blog for a while. hence this long over due post.

have been SO busy with work lately that i’ve had no time for pretty much anything else {which includes spending time with A or any from the family for that matter}

also, i’ve started working at a new firm. 2 months ago. somewhere i’ve been wanting to work for a while. squite happy about this change {well, except for the long hours bit}

my 2017 resolution is all about figuring out the perfect  work – life balance. any corporate lawyer out there who has managed to figure it out already, please contact me. i’m all ears!

musings

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“Death is a strange thing. People live their whole lives as if it does not exist, and yet it’s often one of the greatest motivations for living. Some of us, in time, become so conscious of it that we live harder, more obstinately, with more fury. Some need its constant presence to even be aware of its antithesis. Others become so preoccupied with it that they go into the waiting room long before it has announced its arrival. We fear it, yet most of us fear more than anything that it may take someone other than ourselves. – Fredrick Backman”

truest lines i have read in a while.

from the book ‘a man called ove’. it’s a new york times best-seller and i can’t wait to begin reading it.

i’ve said this before but nothing beats the feeling of having just finished a great book.

carmel, monterey and the big sur

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during our trip to SF, we spent a long weekend traveling to  carmel-by-the-sea and monterey, driving by the big sur!

it was such a memorable weekend and was the first time that our entire family was together at one place – along with its’ newest additions {leheir and my brother’s wife to-be devika}.

we spent 5 hours driving from SF to Monterey. more than usual, as we took the big sur route and had brunch halfway at a beautiful restaurant by the coast.

we stayed at a hotel in monterey. the houses/ air B&Bs’ in carmel were all booked out by the time we got to planning our trip due to the long weekend.

we got lucky though as the hotel was right by the city center and a two minute walk away from the wharf. all the good restaurants were close by. there was also fair going on right outside the hotel lobby with the cutest little shops and food stalls.

we spent sunday at carmel. had brunch at a beautiful french restaurant {which btw serves the best chocolate mousse ever} where we celebrated leheir’s 4 month birthday and then did some dolphin spotting at the carmel beach. we may have seen at least 20 dolphins, which were all v close to the shore. it was breathtaking and to think we almost decided against going to the beach!

we also spent an entire 40 minutes trying to get a good picture of the entire family, on mom’s insistence.

looking back,  i know now that these are the little moments life gifts us…that keep us going and make all the long work hours, the tough times and the distance bearable.

vision board

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about two months ago i decided i need a vision board on my desk.i’ve seen how it has worked wonders for few people i know and thought to myself why not? it always helps having all your goals {however small or big} in front of you while you are at work right? it makes all the long hours we put in on this job seem fairly worth while ;p

the negatives though : a whole lot of questions from your colleagues about the random pictures you put up on your desk.

one month after putting together my vision board, one of them came true. out of nowhere. i mean i did take the first step towards it. but i didn’t, in my wildest dreams, think it would come to me this soon.  {i need to stop being vague and so dramatic. more details on that later}

putting the vision board together itself is a revelation…. there’s so much that went up there, that i didn’t know i wanted till moments before i put it all together.

i would advise everyone to come up with their own vision board. it’s such a fun process. it makes your goals clearer, it gives us more clarity and is there anything more motivating than looking at your goals every day while you work??

*vegas*

i’ve been to vegas before. but around 8 years ago. it was a different time then. and one thing i’ve realised during our weekend there is  ….. i’ve grown up!

we didn’t do pool parties or clubs {except if you count the 30 mins we spent at tao at the venetian on saturday night}.

this trip was more about the casino. and food. good food. signs of ageing???

we were there for just two nights and one day.  we stayed at the pallazo {which is connected to the venetian} and it was a good choice as it’s right where all the action is. thanks arjun, for insisting on not staying anywhere else.

we spent the entire first night casino hopping. it was A’s first time and we wanted him to experience vegas the way one should experience vegas.

our favorite casino that night was the cosmopolitan. we ate late dinner or should i say breakfast? at their open restaurant called the henry.

the next day we visited the seven {or is it six?} pools our hotel had to offer and then went off for some more casino hopping. got our caricatures made and ate at this amazing restaurant called beauty and essex.

we slept that night at 11 pm {!!} and it was our last night in this crazy city. that’s when i knew that i was getting old. my body can’t handle anymore what it could earlier.

we spent our last morning in vegas at the bouchon bistro. and it was the best breakfast i’ve eaten yet. we ate the beef burger {for him} and the sandwhich du joir {for me} he had the expresso martini and i had the bellini.

we finished the meal with beignets {which were a.m.a.z.i.n.g.}

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^^ where we stayed. i got one word for you: location!^^

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^^ the strip is always buzzing. even at 5 am ^^

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^^ A’s reaction was v similar to mine, when i first walked by the faux venetian canals inside our hotel. he was quiet for a whole 5 minutes absorbing it all in^^

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^^ monkeying around in the hotel lobby after 1 too many drinks. isn’t it just the best thing in the world when your husband and twin brother get along like a house on fire?^^

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^^ lunch at sushi samba and one of my favorite pictures of arjun till date ;) ^^

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^^ trying our luck at the slots one last time before leaving vegas…. what’s going on? we look confused ^^

IMG-20161017-WA0016^^ and that’s a jackpot! a 20 dollar worth jackpot ;) ^^

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^^ pictures with the cops. a vegas must do ;)^^

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^^ hotel lobby pictures. just about every corner in our hotel lobby was so breathtaking we couldn’t help but pose for pictures all over the place ^^

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^^ brunch at the bouchon ^^

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^^ expresso martini for him and bellini for me ^^

some more of SF

here’s some other places we loved in SF. some of them may be v touristy {but we love those too!}

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we visited palo alto around 2-3 times during our visit. it’s close to where my sister stays and it has some really good restaurants. it’s also home to stanford university which has one of the best campuses in the country. two restaurants we visited and loved were reposado and tacolicious.  both mexican coz we LOVE mexican.

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^^ the set lunch menu at tacolicious that day was green salad, grilled vegetables and chicken soft taco, refried beans and rice ^^

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off the grid at fort mason centre

it happens every friday night from 5 pm to 10 pm at fort mason in san francisco. until October 30th. there are around 30 food trucks, 3 bars and live music. each food truck serves new and innovative cuisine.

i had a blast. and must have eaten every cuisine there is. mexican, lebanese, chinese, brazilian you name it, we ate it.

pier 39 and china town

pier 39 has the quirkiest shops. they have a pet shop with the cutest pet accessories, a lefty shop dedicated to lefties! {which is pretty cool and fascinating if you were a lefty like me}. they also have some cool places which are great for people watching.

china town is great for 3 dollar ‘san francisco’ caps and exotic varieties of green tea. oh and the MURALS. they were REALLY good.

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^^ that’s me in a LOT of pictures. poor A. consequences of him having  a phone with a better camera ;p^^

burma love

burma love at mission for burmese. specially their tea leaf salad and the samosa soup. both available in vegetarian..

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SF

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my brother told me that locals call the city SF or san francisco. not ‘san fran’ or ‘frisco’. which is all just tourist talk (guilty!)

he also told me that if he was asked to close his eyes and imagine one place, his happy place, he always thought of dolores park, SF.

that got me thinking about what my happy place would be? now that i’m back in mumbai and back at my work desk, if i had to close my eyes and think of my happy place, i’d say it’s san francisco.

not just because it’s beautiful or has great weather throughout the year and a crazy good vibe, but more because  it’s where my family is. and where i now feel most at home outside of mumbai.

we shuttled between my sister’s house in emerald hill {which is about a 20 minute uber drive away from the main city} and my brother’s house in beach street {which is bang in the city centre}, so we had the best of both worlds.

some of our favorite things to do in san francisco …

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(1) Walk the golden gate bridge and visit sausalito.

it seems almost cliched {so much that A refused! i had to eventually drag him..}. but it was the perfect san francisco experience. we got lucky as it was sunny the day we chose to walk the bridge and not too windy. the weather was just perfect.

it was a long walk from my brother’s house near the marina, but it was worth every step. once we crossed the bridge and reached the vista point, our feet were tired and we uber-ed it to sausalito.

{P.S. uber is the best thing to have happened to us this trip. we used it for all our travel. it’s convenient, quick and reasonable cost wise}

sausalito would turn out to be one of my favorite places in california. i’d heard a lot about it from friends and family and so i went there with high expectations. but it still managed to pleasantly surprise me with it’s little city charm.

sausalito also happens to have one of the best views of SF city. it’s dotted with tiny outdoor cafes and restaurants by the pier which are all worth visiting just for the view.

we ate at the napa valley burger company. we didn’t try the burgers {silly us} but the guacamole we ordered was great. just the way i like mine.

we took a ferry on our way back to the city and i’d recommend it just for the view of alcatraz up close.

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^^ some pictures of sausalito {looking back i wish we’d taken some more!} and the guacamole at napa valley buger co.^^

(2) DOLORES PARK!

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i have this annoying habit. every time i meet a local at a city i’m visiting i ask them what their favorite place in the city is. i always get such fun and different answers. places i’d rarely read about in a travel blog, guide or magazine. this visit, 5 out of 6 times the answer was – dolores park.

my brother in law insisted we go on a saturday afternoon and so we did. after that we returned on wednesday afternoon and then thursday afternoon ;p. so you can guess how much we loved it.

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(3) North Beach

north beach is in the north east of san francisco adjacent to chinatown, russian hill and fisherman’s warf. we visited north beach by chance. we were googling “closest in-and-out” {a must visit for all cheeseburger fans} and found one there, adjacent to chipotle. we ended up staying way longer and went back at night to check out the bar scene. which btw is awesome.

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^^ we took our burger to go and ate it at an outdoor bench close by^^

so many places that i might have to continue this in another post.!!

san francisco

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the last time i went to san francisco was eight years ago. i was there for three days. with friends. it was such a great experience. i’d never seen a city like that before. the vibe was just so different. laid-back yet inspiring.

looking back i always felt i didn’t get enough of ‘frisco’. i wanted So more of it.

then.. a few years later my twin brother moved there. and last year my sister and her husband moved there too. so now, me going there again was inevitable. but the thought of sitting in an 18 hour flight made me delay this much needed trip for months/ years(?)

i booked my tickets the day leheir was born. literally just a few hours later.  my much needed incentive.

i leave in three days. A leaves tomorrow. he booked an earlier flight. we will also be going to las vegas and carmel.

but what i’m most looking forward to is holding…

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this cute little baby. she’s going to be three months the day i land.

can’t wait to see her beautiful face up close. and give her a million kisses.

life lately

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life or should i say people have a sweet way of reminding me to keep blogging. every time i forget about the blog {which seems to happen a lot these days} i get a sweet email from an unknown admirer who’s been reading my posts or a 2 am message  from a best friend in new york asking me why I haven’t been blogging off late.

so here goes…..

  • with each passing year/month/day, i find my self enjoying the law {a.k.a. work} more and more. not sure if its because i have a great boss and team or its just something that comes with age or spending way TOO many hours in office.
  • i DONT like partying as much as i used to. in fact most days, i dont like getting out at all. i prefer my bed. oh and netflix.
  • my favorite thing to do these days is face timing with my niece leheir. i could stare at her all day even though she pretty much does nothing but eat, sleep and stare at nothingness.

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  • i came across this pretty amazing article on resilience the other day. and i think every working human should read it atleast once. i’ve read it twice already.
  • i’m starting to develop a taste for coffee {with cinnamon}. its taken 28 long years, but its finally happened.
  • we got a mini bar for our room! and this awesome vintage ‘beers of the world’ tin sign to put above the bar. perks of marriage, i say. cant imagine my parents would have ever  been okay with it back when i lived with them.
  • i’m getting a vision board for my desk at work { even though that would equal to a lot of questions from the colleagues} i think vision boards work. the principle of secret and all that. i strongly recommend it to everybody.
  • we tried out this new japanese restaurant on saturday night. and i can’t stop raving about it. best mushroom hot pot rice with truffle miso butter i have ever had. just writing about it makes me drool.
  • my husband and i talk on the phone at least 16 times a day, while i’m at work. not sure if that’s normal. but it’s just how we roll.

el ain sokhna and the 6th of July ;)

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i am thankful to have found a husband like A. i got lucky. i always tell friends how i feel he’s a lot nicer than what i am {if that’s even possible ;)} he is my best friend, career advisor, partner and the most fun roommate. but what i love about him the most is knowing that seeing me happy, makes him the happiest. i hope and pray that it always stays this way.

he doesn’t care about birthdays the way i do. the childish girl in me loves celebrating birthdays as if i was still 18! and that’s something i plan to over come. soon. he doesn’t get it. at all. but he will always comply. because he knows how important it is to me.

this birthday we spent in el ain sokhna in egypt. it’s merely a 1.5 hour drive from cairo and i’d recommend anyone who visits cairo to make sure they drive down to el sokhna. we stayed at ashraf’s vacation home right by the beach. we spent the entire day swimming in the red sea. literally. we reached the beach at 8 am and swam and drank and ate till the sun came down. then we came home had a chicken and quail barbecue {i tried quail!}  and went back to the beach until midnight.

to bring in my birthday ashraf has invited his neighbors and friends for dinner and drinks and they got me an ice cream cake and sang happy birthday in Egyptian. i was so touched and got teary. i did not expect the cake. nor did i expect people who i had met merely 5 days ago to go out of their way for me.

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^^ my favoritest egyptians !! mark and seline^^

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^^ the clear waters of the red sea^^

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^^ my husband’s attempt at taking my picture. he always manages to goof it up somehow ^^

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^^ which is why i resort to selfies during vacations!^^