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5 years today

how time flies.

today {which is a fairly light work day} I got several linked in pop up emails with some of my ex colleagues congratulating me  on my ‘work anniversary’. I clicked on the links out of curiosity – what work anniversary was this? it had only been 10 months since I joined Platinum. the link connected me to my work anniversary here {I had added the url of this blog  to my linked in page a long time ago}. then it hit me, I started this blog  5 years ago, today.

I still remember typing out my first blog post those many years ago. at a different desk on a different computer. I was so passionate about this little project. it was something I had been thinking about for so very long. it was like my very own online diary – noting down all the events, days and moments of my life which I didn’t want to forget. at some point I even wanted to make a career out of it {I still wouldn’t mind actually, if that could work ;)}

SO much has changed since. I’ve moved houses and jobs and met new people. I still look through the blog posts and feel so grateful for all of my experiences {a big reason I started this in the first place – is gratitude}

over time blog posts have appeared less often. but they haven’t stopped. haven’t let go of this domain name and don’t plan to.

my new year resolution for 2017 amongst several others was to blog more. and I plan to stick to it. even if it’s probably a little to late in the year. that’s okay…

life right now? is all about my new job {which is not so new anymore}, oscillating between being overly ambitious on some days and a wanting to be a  house wife on others, marriage {so much to learn, such a long way to go}, family {trying to spend more time with my old and making an effort to get to know the new}, my absolutely adorable niece {who we ALL obsess over} and the moments in between – traveling, hanging with friends and just being.

other random facts/things ..

my new favorite gift to give  – {specially when you have limited notice} – ellipsis bakery -  you can order their glutton-free or multigrain products on scootsy and they deliver it at your doorstep within 20 mins all packed up.

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my new favorite office snack – {albeit an unhealthy one}  I recently discovered my childhood favorite, Domino’s {Express Food} chocolate chip cookies on amazon and was ecstatic!

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my new favorite drink – mango orange green tea at café zoe

new favorite pass time – playing mono deal with the husband post work

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new favorite thing to do ever – watching leheir’s videos on REPEAT.

 

 

 

 

back to the basics

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starting a new job is hard. you have to adjust, adapt and prove yourself all over again. changing two jobs in less than a year is harder.

but it’s a choice we make. one with long-term benefits.

recently i read an article on the importance of emotional intelligence in a professional work environment and it referred to dale carnegie’s book on how to win friends and influence people. growing up i’d heard of this book a thousand times. but never really got down to reading it.

but a few weeks ago i decided to check on what the hype was all about.

the book was published in 1936 and was one of the first and most bestselling self help books ever published. and i get why now. everything in the book, published decades ago, holds true even today. and there’s so much to learn and so v inspiring. once you begin reading it you realise that apart from several other benefits it’s even v helpful in pushing you forward in your career.

i’m about to start reading his other book, how to stop worrying and start living and can’t wait because for one, i know it will make A v happy. he’s always telling me about how i need to get rid of my ridiculous worrying habit.

vision board

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about two months ago i decided i need a vision board on my desk.i’ve seen how it has worked wonders for few people i know and thought to myself why not? it always helps having all your goals {however small or big} in front of you while you are at work right? it makes all the long hours we put in on this job seem fairly worth while ;p

the negatives though : a whole lot of questions from your colleagues about the random pictures you put up on your desk.

one month after putting together my vision board, one of them came true. out of nowhere. i mean i did take the first step towards it. but i didn’t, in my wildest dreams, think it would come to me this soon.  {i need to stop being vague and so dramatic. more details on that later}

putting the vision board together itself is a revelation…. there’s so much that went up there, that i didn’t know i wanted till moments before i put it all together.

i would advise everyone to come up with their own vision board. it’s such a fun process. it makes your goals clearer, it gives us more clarity and is there anything more motivating than looking at your goals every day while you work??

the only people for me are the mad ones

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a few days ago on the suggestion of another blogger, i bought the kindle version of ‘blackout: remembering the things i drank to forget’ by sarah hepola.

i am quite literally in love with this book. and i’m only halfway through. can’t remember the last time a book has made me laugh this hard.

generally, i tend to read books which are a lot more serious.

this book makes me realize how much i love reading or listening to clean honest words. i love it when people write/ talk with no inhibitions. people who are truly themselves. no holds barred. no pretensions. they maybe mad to some, crazy to others but to me – they are my kind of people.

if someone had to ask me what i would have chosen to be, had i not been a lawyer – i’d say a writer. but i’d go to grammar class first. my sister never misses a chance to point out one of the million grammatical errors in my blog posts… in my defense – legal drafting is to blame  and only lawyers would know what i mean by that ;)

happy list

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every time i feel low or just not grateful enough about the way things are, i try to come up with a happy list. sometimes i even ask my friends to email/ message me theirs.

it always works like a charm.

within moments you find your self snapping out of the mind frame you’ve been in and grinning to your self {and getting weird looks from all your colleagues}

right now happens to be one of those moments. so here’s a list of what makes me smile…

1) babies – small, fat, tiny, chubby, black, laughing, crying, white or brown. basically all kinds of babies and absolutely everything about them.

2) the rains. the smell of rain. the feel of it. and how beautiful it makes my city look from the window by my desk.

3) the swedish berries green tea from the coffee bean and tea leaf.

4) snuggling in bed with my husband at the end of a long day at work, watching a crime show on netflix {marvel’s daredevil currently}

5) when a random restaurant you visit surprises you with really good food

6) a glass of sangria {or lets just make that glasses ;)}

7) swimming pools – swimming, floating or just lounging. i’m a water baby, you see.

8) reading a good article or book. an article/ book on reading of which you want to immediately call a friend or husband {in my case} to discuss.

9) memories {happy memories} – memories of family, friends, vacations and of people you once knew.

10) listening to cheerleader by O.M.I. – it’s been around for a while, but the song has a way of lifting my spirits. i try to listen to it on my way to work {when the spirits need lifting the most ;)}

feel better already! would love if you guys could  email me your happy lists, would love to read them!

mehendi

 

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here are lots and lots of pictures of the mela mehendi and the neel on tote on the turf.

the mela theme was my mum’s idea. and it was such a hit.

we had tarot card readers, caricature artists, nail painters, lakkh bangle makers, nail paint artists and really fun game stalls.

winners of the games won all things sweet-  nutella  jars, cupcake boxes, toblerones and more.

the only alcohol being served was sangria and beer. but a LOT of it was consumed.

the food was ALL Indian. as per the theme.

there was a mumbai street food stall {with mini baked vada pavs, misal pav, dhabeli and kadhi samosa}, a south indian counter, a parantha counter {with all kinds of paranthas with achar, onions and the works}, a gola counter and then of courselots of  main courses, salads and deserts.

i regret not eating as much as i would have liked to :( {common compliant for ALL my wedding functions}

BUT i had a blast and it all got over too soon.

thinking about it now and going through the pictures at work makes me cry a little. if only i could re-live those three days again and again and again. oh and the honeymoon too!

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^^ as favours for all the guests my mum hand painted wall paintings for each guest. they were all so beautiful. i had a few friends send me pics {post the wedding} with the paintings hung up on their walls. it took her a whole year to make so many of them !^

looking back, i don’t think my wedding and any of the functions would have been possible without help from every single family member of mine. so many of them flew in from different parts of america, germany, japan, new zealand and so many parts of the country. them being around me and living with us for the entire week was probably my favorite part of the wedding.  memories to cherish forever.

are you on survival mode?

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sometimes when work starts getting too monotonous and i feel less passionate towards everything around me for DAYS together, it feels like i’m living on ‘survival mode’

trying to just get through the day. one day at a time.

any time i need to make important decisions i postpone it to – “next month” need to book a make up artist/ dj for the wedding postpone it to “next week”  or need to quit my job and apply for a writing course in new york university – “next year” or “next lifetime maybe” ;)

BUT as Professor Harrold Hill says “You pile up enough tomorrows, and you’ll find you are left with nothing but a lot of empty yesterdays.” {source: article below!}

just read this beautiful article on medium about 8 things every person should do before 8 am and let’s just say that article has given me the much needed motivation to start getting up early for a CHANGE. and take control of my life

just in case you need motivation like i do. and just in case you happen to be living on survival mode too. please make sure you read it.

happy thursday xoxo!

 

this right here..

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is happiness in a picture.

my favorite picture of A yet.

when i first met him i wasn’t very fond of dogs. i was too scared of them. ESPECIALLY alsatians.

and man has that changed now.

over time i have grown to love hugo.

i love how he follows me around the house, the way he stares at me for hours together, the way he licks my feet while i’m sleeping, jumps at me the minute i ring the doorbell and just everything thing else he does.

can’t wait till i see him again this weekend.

xoxo

promotion!!!

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hey, i’m no partner but honestly, really very honestly….

i haven’t felt happier

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it is such a rush to get any form of recognition at work  {specially when you work at a law firm – i don’t think law firms really believe in that kind of a thing ;)}

beats everything else ….. and makes all those late nights and early mornings worth it.

hope this month has been good to you too!

xoxo

that year

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the wedding year.

it has GOT to be the most stressful yet memorable year of your life.

so much around you is changing or has changed already.

you’re ALWAYS stressed and/or arguing with your fiance about the guest list!

everyone’s attitude towards you changes over night {a.k.a. your boss. who blames every mistake in a document on your upcoming nuptials ;)}

your attitude towards everyone and everything changes a lot too….

so well, this is ‘that year’ for me and honestly in spite of all of the stress and ambiguity I’m enjoying every moment of it.

because i know that next year when i don’t have a guest list to argue about I am actually going to miss it.

p.s. if any one of you wishes to donate for the Nepal earthquake a friend of mine along with a few others is personally traveling to Nepal and providing on ground help and supplies to villages outside of Kathmandu. here’s their link.

an early valentine’s day

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when i told A that i was going to pondicherry on v day, he didn’t look too happy about it.

we may have even argued.

but honestly, i didn’t think if i actually were in the city, he would have even wanted to celebrate.

he’s not a very valentine’s day kinda person {and honestly it’s about time i stop being one too}

but i guess i was wrong

the night i was leaving, he surprised me at my place and took me to 212 {our favorite restaurant}

he even packed home food for dad! who was going to be eating home alone that night.

how did i get this lucky??

Puducherry

we took a trip to puducherry {formally known as pondicherry} this weekend

we were 6 girls. 2 of them who i’d never really met before.

i didn’t expect to have such a good time.

puducherry is a small city {more like a french colony} at about a 3 hour drive from chennai.

it’s beautiful and often i found myself thinking that i was walking in a small town in europe. definitely not india.

it has the cutest small restaurants /cafe’s {outdoor and indoor} each of which have a charm of their own.

we met so many friendly people and owners of these restaurants.

it also has great beaches. specially some of the lesser known ones.

the best part of the trip however was my companions. i had such a good time with the girls. getting to know them and just realizing how similar we all are. i know i say this often but it still surprises me every time i meet someone i’ve never met before and find myself having so much in common with them  and connecting so well with them.

and here’s our short vacation in pictures…

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^^ us posing for pictures in our hotel lobby. we stayed at le royal park which was great and v reasonable, the only negative being that it was a ten minute rickshaw ride from the french quarter.

we were off to a restaurant called la maison rose

once we got there, we found the staff slightly rude and we did not end up getting a table, so we went on to another restaurant called le dupleix {which i cannot recommend enough! it was beautiful and the food was beautiful too, it deserves a post to itself}

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^^ our first morning in puducherry, purva and i decided to explore the city while the others were still sleeping. we walked around aimlessly in the french colony/ white town district and happened upon all these beautiful places… ^^

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^^ for breakfast we went to this super funky and relaxed rooftop cafe called  kasha ki aasha. we had the regular pancakes and the chocolate pancakes. we  also tried their bruschetta/tomato & cheese  sandwich. it was such a fun place and we ended up spending way to many hours lounging. they even let us play our own music on our speakers ^^

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^^ we all agreed that villa shanti was one of our favorites. we went there for lunch. and it totally lived up to all the recommendations we had got from others. ambiance AND food wise. we ate indian. and had great cocktails. ^^

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^^ one of the highlights of our 4 day vacation was when we happened upon a restaurant called disdis & co. the owner was this sweet lady who has a tiny boutique attached to the restaurant. we bought lots of things.

further, she recommended bodhi beach to us. she said it was one of the lesser explored beaches in the city and that we would love it. we spent almost the entire next day at the beach. ^^

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^^^ that is cafe des arts. and i recommend …^^

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^^ the chocolate crepes. does not the picture speak for itself??  the cafe is beautiful! and they have the cutest store attached to it.^^

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^^ they even have a cycle rickshaw to pose on ;)^^

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^^ and now that you’ve made it this far into the post… you do want to know about le club. the grilled chicken and mushrooms is to die for!! ^^